Soiree: A party of people assembled in the evening, usually at a private house.

Well this NYE was the best ever, well the best since NYE 1999. It was our last ER bash/get-together of the year.Kristen was kind enough to hostess this soiree at her home and we partied it up ER style , especially given the fact that most of us there had not had a New Years Eve off in about five or six years.
Good friends, food, wine and other drinks of choice were plentiful at this end of the year bash. John (Kristens husband) invited his friends that work in surgery with him at the hospital and although the surgery crew did not mingle much with the ER crew, they looked like they were having a great time outside by the fire pit and the keg.The usual ER gang showed up , minus the ones that had to work, and we missed them.
I got there a little early to help set up and prepare some of the food. A few friends did stop by on their way to work to grab a quick bite to eat before heading to the madness in the ER.
We did have plenty of alcohol for our friends that were there to party-wine,beer,vodka,tequila and setups were available. We had plenty of good food too-chicken,sausage,cheese sticks,vegetable trays, fruit,crackers,chips and many varieties of homemade dips and salsa to choose from.Our only food mishap was the dip for the strawberries. Kristen was able to find a dip in vanilla and chocolate flavor to heat in the microwave and you dip the strawberry in it, swirl, and lay it on wax paper to harden.The chocolate ones turned out beautiful, the vanilla, not so good.One of the guests brought this awesome spinach dip which she served in a Christmas tin lined with plastic wrap. It was such a cute idea and so easy to clean up.
As the night went on and guests were coming and going,the music was playing loud and we were highly entertained by a few that could "bust a move" or two. Before I knew it , it was 11:45, so John and I poured out the champagne in plastic champagne flutes for all of those that wanted to partake as the clock hit midnight.As we rang in the new year, well wishes and hugs were given and a few even exchanged kisses!Although i did not have anyone special to give a big sloppy kiss to, I did get lots of hugs and I had a great time. Maybe next year!
About 12:50 the party was starting to wind down with some going to other parties, Crockett Street, or just wanting to get home before the bars closed.We started to clean, and we got her house back in order in a short period of time. I was home by 2 am, and downloaded my party pictures to Facebook in record time, as my friend Vanessa and I are in constant competition to see who can post their pictures first from parties or holidays. So I was safe and sound and in my pajamas at a relatively decent hour , at least by NYE standards (maybe I'm just getting old), as I declined an invite to continue the party at another location.
We did have one more get together for the new year Friday night at Kims house, as she had to work NYE. Kim spent the day slaving over her hot stove cooking up all kinds of goodies for her friends and family. I got there around 5:30 and stayed until around 10 pm and visited with friends,Kims family and watched a movie.
So far ,it has been a great year, and hope everyones new year was as great as mine.

Welcoming In The New Year

If you have had a crazy year with lots of changes- good,bad , or if you are still undecided, raise your hand.I'm raising both of mine !Changes are good for the most part ,they help us grow .It's adjusting to the change that seems to be where the challenge lies.
2009 was quite a year, to say the least. Let's see - divorce- which means not only did my husband leave, but with the divorce , you lose the in laws(not so much missing his parents hmmmm), but lost 2 sister-in-laws that I considered to be like my own sisters,lost 2 Godchildren- when you don't get to see the ex-sisterinlaws, you don't get to see the kids, and lost a stepson, had my own health issues to deal with ,lost my grandma( my grand mere Genevieve),and lost a friend .I was able to survive all of this in one year and I can talk about it without falling apart.My divorce was not as bad as it could have been, we had no children and really not much property to divide, but it was something I would never want to go through again. You feel as though everyone is judging you and looking at you.I had to start on a medication for my thyroid.I now know why I was having all the symptoms I was experiencing and I feel so much better, although I am not a fan of taking medicines( yes , even though I am a nurse).My grandmother on my fathers side passed away in August.Which means I had to deal with seeing my father, and I make it a point to not have to see him.To make a long story short, the man showed up with his entourage from Houma, Louisanna, lots of alcohol, made a fool of himself, embarrassed me and then went home. Enough said there.I lost a friend too,a good friend that I felt very close to and I do not know what I would have done without this person in my life this past year. Yes, some people come into your life only for a season, well the season ended and now he is gone. But I will never forget the lessons he taught me about its okay to open up and be happy again.
But 2009 was not all filled with negativity, there were a few good changes as well. I managed to lose 28 pounds,I found out I can do alot of things on my own ,I ran a 5 k marathon in New Orleans back in February of 2009,and I turned 40 !Turning 40 was actually easier than when I turned 30. For alot of women turning 40 can bring a fear into your heart like you would not believe, especially if your life is not where you want it to be. But I took a very good look at my life and decided that I would CELEBRATE this milstone birthday and not fear it. My friends threw me a fabulous 40 party with lots of good food, wine , music and friends. I felt so lucky.I feel that I have grown more in this past year than I have in the past 10 years.This past year has allowed me to grow very close to a few of my friends and to LET them be there for me and I realized that when I cry in the middle of the night, it's okay to let them know, they are there for me. I don't always have to be the strong one.So this past year has been spent spending time with good friends,reading books, going to the movies, trying new recipes, and doing alot of thinking.
So I am saying goodbye to the old and inviting in the new- isn't that the old saying?I am so ready! The past year and especially the last few months , it seems as though my days have been filled with work, work , and more work!I try to preoccupy myself with this, that or the other- that is how I deal with stress or when I don't want to think about something that makes me sad or that hurts.Well, after awhile , reality sets in and you just have to deal with it.Well I am now ready to deal with it and to begin a new chapter of my life and move on.
As 2009 slides into 2010,many of us make resolutions and promises .Some we are able to keep and some we aren't.Most of these resolutions include losing weight, stop smoking,reading more,spending more time with loved ones ect.I was able to keep a few of the resolutions that I made for myself for 2009. I did lose weight, ran a 5k marathon in New Orleans back in February, passed my CEN (certified emergency nurses) exam, ,threw a party on Good Friday, I let myself open up to a good friend, and I stood up for myself to my ex husband when he tried to take me for everything I had worked so hard for, and well, he left the marriage with pretty much what he came into it with- nothing but the clothes on his back!
I never really make a public declaration or vow of my New Years Resolutions, but I feel that at least publishing my goals for the year, will make them more attainable even if no one else reads this or knows about it!I am still continuing in my quest to lose weight.I left my old gym, the one I have been a member of since 1998, when I moved back to Beaumont. That was a hard change to make.I love that place! But, I decided it would be a good positive thing to do something different this year. I am continuing my Yoga practice at Beaumont Power Yoga with my instructor/friend/mentor Nicole.She has been an inspiration to me and has been the one to motivate me and has been there for me when I was really down.
I am making a more spiritual commitment as well.I am a cradle Catholic- which means I was baptized Catholic,had my first communion,my confirmation,and I was married in the Church as well with the traditional Catholic wedding.Well, this past year I have not been so committed to going to Mass, but I have decided if I can spend an hour getting my hair done,getting a pedicure or working out, I can devote one hour a week to my faith.I feel that no matter what faith you follow, devoting at least one hour a week to whatever God you follow is important.This will all start tomorrow at 9:30 am at St Judes. Oh, and I left St Annes, my home parish and am now a member at St Judes. It is closer to my home and , well not any old memories.
Living a more healthier,holistic,and greener lifestyle is also on my list.I feel that there has never been a more important time than now than to focus on our planets well being.Global warming and climate changes are directly affected by the choices we make each day.One of the changes I plan to incorporate into my life is to stop buying bottled water- I am so guilty of this! Well with all of the reusable bottles I have, there is no need for me to keep buying bottled water.So I bought myself a Brita filter and container and I am ready to go eco-water-friendly! I just have to find me someone to install it for me!And those 10 24-count cases of water I have can be saved for a rainy day- like a hurricane!
I am a "shopaholic".I love clothes, shoes,purses,makeup and have so much, more than I could ever need. Well, I cleaned out my closet twice this past year and managed to fill NINE , nine I tell you large shopping bags full of clothes, purses, and shoes. Some of this still had the price tags on them!I donated quite a bit to the womens shelter resale shop, and gave quite a bit to one of the girls I work with.I felt so good cleaning out my closet like that. And no, I did not go replace it all with another shopping spree.My closet still remains full, but it is back to basics.But the one indulgence I cannot give up is my addiction to Victorias Secret. I can't help it. Trust me, you can never have enough panties and bras.I will stop buying the occasional cute and sexy ( not sleazy) pieces of lingerie. I have many items still with the price tags on them and one day I will have someone to wear them for ... one day !
I have managed to become an "Energy Star".I purchased a new dryer last year and I made sure that the Energy Star logo was present.I have also switched to long lasting compact fluorescent lights .
I recently took a good look under my cabinets and I threw out alot of cleaning products that contain harsh chemicals and I have switched to Seventh Generation and Clean works natural products made my Clorox.A little more expensive, but worth it.
I have managed to ditch the plastic bags!I have about 20 reusable shopping bags and I keep some of them in the car for grocery shopping and I try to remember to take them to Target as well.
And now one of my favorite subjects- food! I love to eat. Growing up in a relatively healthy veggie-friendly home, I have always had fairly good eating habits and never really had a weight problem until I turned 35 (hmmm the same age I was when I got married).I do not consider myself 100 % vegetarian, I do drink milk and eat eggs and cheese and I do eat fish twice a week.I love Tilapia and I am always looking for good fish/seafood recipes.I will try not to indulge in eating too many sweets, although I love chocolate cake .I will try to save those calories for special occasions only.
Although I realize that even though I can exercise all I want and eat healthy foods all the live long day, I will probably never be a size 4 again. I am now a size 10 with the occasional good fortune of fitting into a size 8 on a good day. My goal is to comfortably wear a size 8. But, when I was cleaning out the closet this summer I did find a pair of size 6 jeans that I could not bear to part with. So who knows, I may be wearing those jeans by the end of the summer because sometmes I can hear them calling my name!
Well my wish is that everyone has a safe,happy,prosperous and healthy new year. I will close with a quote form one of my favorite actresses Salma Hayek: "Life is about creating new opportunities, not waiting for them to come to you."I am hoping to create lots of new opportunities for myself and I hope you will too. I have a feeling 2010 is going to be a great year !

Quotes.... and such

Quotes ...... and such

Quotes .... most of us have some profound or poetic quote that they are are fond of and we may occasionally post one on our Facebook or MySpace page. I happen to have a few favorite quotes myself and this summer I posted at least one new favorite quote that I found inspiring on my FaceBook status. I would get the occasional thumbs up or comment to my quote and I think that my friends enjoyed reading them and may have even looked forward to seeing what I would post next. I enjoyed doing it and it made me happy.Many of the quotes I posted were taken from the book "Skinny Bitchin" , by Rory Frieedman and Kim Barnouin.The book is full of quotes , inspirational thoughts and even has space for journaling.Since I have been on my quest to lose the extra poundage ( post exhusband telling me I looked like a cow all the time)for the past year, I found the book to be a lifesaver.Not only inspiring me to keep at it, but other quotes to just help me take things one day at a time.It has been a rough year, hell it's been a rough life!Not that I have anything to really complain about- I have much more than I would ever need or could possibly want.
There are two quotes that stand out in my mind that I have always found to be quite annoying, and I have always tended to tune out or turn a deaf ear to, especially when someone makes reference to either one of these quotes and they then drone on and on about how and why this quote has such a big significance in their life. One reason I am willing to admit this is that both of these quotes when heard have always "hit home" with me on more than one occasion in my life.
The first quote is one that has been made very popular within the past few years on some television show I do not watch or a movie I have never seen.The quote"It's complicated" seems to have found its way to pass the lips of so many people these days, especially females. Whether they are describing their current relationship with a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or just a guy they are really into- that probably is just not that into them- it's endless! I have even seen "It's complicated" used as a relationship status on FaceBook!I have always resisted using this quote . When someone asks me how something is going and to answer them in a nutshell would be easily taken care of with "It's complicated- lets just leave it at that."My answer 99.5 % of the time is "fine", with a forced smile."Its complicated" - two words that describe most situations or relationships - or lack there of (past and present) in my life. So to make a long story short, in an nutshell, do not expect "It's complicated " to pass these lips anytime soon.... although it may be the perfect two words to just describe it all!
Another quote that I have always cringed at the thought of is "Everything happens for a reason" and yada yada yada and all that it implies. No kidding.Most people are always in pursuit of finding that profound reason and learning and growing from it. Well, being the cynical person I am, I choose to just fix the problem or just move on without ever learning from the lesson or learning what the reason is.That has always been therpeutic for me... and it has worked , until recently.
Everything happens for a reason- now that things have changed so much, this may be a time to find the importance of learning what the reason is and how to grow and learn from it. I suppose that means that to very action, there is a reaction and if something is meant to be, it will happen , one way or another.
Sometimes really tragic or bad things happen to really good people, it isn't fair, but it is real life.Sometimes the pain is beyond belief . I try really hard not to ever regret anything I have done or the choices I have made, because at one time or another, it must have been something I really wanted . I try to remember that if I did not make that choice,if i did not let that person be a part of my life , I would not be the person I am today.... and I think I am a good person.I try to remember that no matter how horrible it feels right now, one day it will all make perfect sense, because it has happened in the past. You really do get overf things and you do move on with your life.Right now, trying to make sense of something or someone that hurts is inconceivable and seeing the end of it , is just not in sight. Now my outlook is that when a hurtful or bad thing happens, that maybe it was supposed to happen ,so that something good can takes its place.
Patience is a virtue( thumbs up to that one), and eventually I will know the reason and take that lesson and grow.
We all know Marilyn Monroe, her life and story continue to intrigue people and is still a popular figure in pop culture.She made a reference to the quote "Everything happens for a reason" and here goes:
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they are right, you believe lies so can eventually learn to trust noone but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
Hearing Marilyn put it that way makes the quote have more meaning to me and it is a quote I can now become a fan of. Thanks Marilyn ! :)

Getting Started

Okay, I have decided to give in........ I am going to become the author of my own blog site. ( Thank you Vanessa- my friend that only comes out at night!)My younger sister writes a blog that she calls Mere Motherhood -it is about her daily life as a wife and mother of 3 beautiful children. I also subscribe to a blog about Yoga,another one that I follow is an interesting blog about tattoos- but not just any tattoos- tattoos of owls! I have recently started following a blog about single life and have enjoyed it and now see my world ( or my reality )in a new perspective. I have also been following a blog of a new friend that recently moved to a new place and I think I am going to have fun following her adventures !Now, not that I think anything I write is really that important or even that interesting, but I have come to find that journaling is a healthy way to express my thoughts, feelings or whatever comes to mind. I participated in a journaling group in college when I went to the University of Houston and I really enjoyed it . I also had some of my works(poetry)published in Puma Spirit.So, here goes.... call it what you want....Stories or Musings From The Last Single Girl Standing,Real Life Taking Over, or Whatever and Whenever. I will be writing about single life,my Yoga classes, my family, my friends ,my career, my relationships- or really the lack thereof, outings with friends, good times and bad times, my pursuit of living a more holistic and greener lifestyle and devoting my life to doing good deeds for others. So read and enjoy :)